Looking Perfect Is Unattainable

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As I squeezed into my skinny jeans, I started to wonder if Taylor Swift ever has to squeeze into her jeans. Not only did I conclude that she pretty much never wears jeans, but I also realized that even if she is able to put on jeans with ease, why should it matter to me? Other people’s jean struggles or lack of struggles, along with other’s “perfect” or “imperfect” bodies, shouldn’t matter to me or to you.

The message being spread to women is that everyone comes in different shapes and sizes. While this message is positive and encouraging, it doesn’t always counteract the messages that society and media are really sending us. The majority of famous women are shown in a “flattering” light, meaning, Photoshop works its sickening magic to virtually delete all visible flaws. This also means that all women who view these images are given an unrealistic idea of what you have to look like in order to be thought of as attractive. In reality, not one single person looks like the women on magazine covers. Striving to be as skinny and flawless as them is a waste of time because you will ultimately be left with disappointment.

Instead of wanting to look like someone else, why not embrace the way you naturally are? As long as you’re healthy, there’s nothing wrong with being a size that society calls “ugly”. Society doesn’t know anything when it comes to true beauty. Skinny shaming and fat shaming are the worst, because it makes it seem like there’s not a size that anyone is ok with. Instead of worrying about what others think of your size, or worrying about another person’s size, you should find ways to be happy with the way you are.

Your size can never define you as a person. Your physical body doesn’t reflect your personality, so if anyone is shallow enough to dislike you because of how you look, then they don’t deserve to get to know who you are. Your waistline doesn’t tell anyone how generous you are, the size of your pants doesn’t reveal how smart you are, and the overall shape of your body doesn’t determine your capabilities in life. You shouldn’t be down on yourself just because you don’t look stereotypically “perfect”.

The next time you look in the mirror because you’re not satisfied with the way your body looks, stop for a moment and just smile at yourself. Think about all your incredible traits and all the things that make you a unique person. If you’re able to see your smile in the mirror and feel good about it, that means you’re already on your way to accepting yourself. You have to remember that size is just a minor aspect of yourself, and that it should never take over. Size doesn’t matter, you matter.

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Taylor Swift Songs That Will Put You In A Good Mood

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Taylor Swift is the queen of angry and sad breakup songs, but she is also wonderful at releasing songs dealing with new beginnings and positivity. I decided to look through all the Taylor songs that I own (a lot of songs….like over 100!) and post the ones that I feel best give off an upbeat/positive vibe. Whether you’re a fan of hers or not, at least take a listen to some of these:

Begin Again:

Begin Again is all about starting a new relationship after you’ve been trying to move on from your ex. It reflects the wonderful feelings you can get once you let go and try something new with someone else.

Hey Stephen:

Hey Stephen is a song that you would totally sing to that cute boy you have a crush on. He may have all these girls pining after him but hey, you’re totally positive that you’re the one for him.

Change:

Change is a great song because you can relate it to almost anything you’re going through. If you’re going through a rough time just know that “these things will change” and times will get better.

Fearless:

Fearless is another song about starting new with someone. Being “fearless” with someone means to let go and dive in and see how wonderful it can be.

Jump Then Fall:

Jump Then Fall reflects a song about liking a guy and telling him that he doesn’t have to be afraid of any consequences of falling for you. This can also reflect the idea that you shouldn’t be afraid of falling for someone just because you’re afraid of getting hurt. You just go for it and see what happens!

22:

22 is a great song to dance to with your friends because it’s all about having fun and not having a care in the world. This song is especially awesome to jam out to if you’re a single lady because it’ll make you just want to appreciate your life and not worry about anything.

We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together:

We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together is a wonderful song for someone who has recently gone through a breakup and is like, soo done. Not only is it a fun song to dance to, but it’s one of those breakup songs that doesn’t make you want to cry, but instead makes you smile and sing a long.

Everything Has Changed:

Everything Has Changed not only features the beautiful voice of Ed Sheeran, but it also contains lyrics about finding someone new. It marks those first feelings you have when you start to fall for someone and how amazing it truly is.

Mean:

Mean is a song you can jam out to when you want to tell the haters what’s up. It reflects the fact that there are going to be people out there who may not like you or appreciate you, but you shouldn’t care because you are going to do great things in life, while those people waste their time putting you down.

Long Live:

Long Live can be interpreted in many different ways, but I feel like it has an overall vibe to it. Taylor wrote it specifically about her fans, and how grateful she is for all the experiences she has had going on tour and becoming successful with her music. It just has a great feel to it and can instantly brighten your mood.

Sweeter Than Fiction:

Sweeter Than Fiction was a song that Taylor wrote for a movie, and isn’t very well known by everyone, but I still think it’s an amazing song. It’s about someone who struggles to find someone to believe in them, and keeps on failing at what they’re trying to pursue, but should keep on trying, because eventually they’ll make it. It’s a great motivational song for anyone who is trying to work hard towards something.

Shake It Off:

Shake It Off is not only a fun song to dance around your room to, but it also just makes you feel good in general. It’s basically about not caring what the haters (or anyone) thinks of you because you know you’re awesome. Just shake it off!

Blank Space:

Blank Space is a fun song because in it, Taylor is essentially making fun of herself for being known as a serial dater, and she is telling the next guy that she’ll add his name to her list of ex lovers. Whether you relate to this insanity or not, it’s a great song to listen to when you want to just sing and be in a better mood.

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Why Everyone Should Listen To Taylor Swift’s Song “Clean”

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Taylor Swift is known for writing songs about relationships and breakups, and many of her lyrics are extremely relatable. Some people aren’t fans of Swift simply because of the topics of her songs, but her song “Clean” from her latest album “1989” is a song that I believe everyone needs to listen to at least once.

“Clean”, which was co-written by Imogen Heap, can be interpreted in many different ways depending on your personal situations. I believe that its original meaning has to do with getting over a breakup. It reflects losing someone, yet finding yourself through it all.

This song has beautiful lyrics and metaphors throughout which create strong visual images in the mind and a whole string of emotions. I want to go through some of the lyrics just to show you how on point this song can be with anyone’s life.

The song starts out like most breakups do: “You’re still all over me like a wine-stained dress I can’t wear anymore; Hung my head as I lost the war; And the sky turned black like a perfect storm.” Using the beautiful metaphor of a “wine-stained dress”, Swift sings about the moment after a breakup where you cannot stop thinking about your ex/you can’t seem to get over him/her. In these lines, she explains the feeling of a breakup as being very dark and empty.

The chorus is a basic summary of the whole process of getting through a breakup: “Rain came pouring down; When I was drowning, that’s when I could finally breathe; And by morning, gone was any trace of you; I think I am finally clean.” Swift uses the metaphor of rain as the emotional breakdown that one goes through during a breakup. “When I was drowning, that’s when I could finally breathe”, is an ironic statement that reflects finding oneself when all hope is lost. The second half of the chorus emulates the moment when you’re finally over a breakup and you feel like a new person.

Another line that stands out is: “So I punched a hole in the roof; Let the flood carry away all my pictures of you.” This is a metaphorical representation of letting go all of the memories of your ex that are haunting you and holding you back. This could also be a literal interpretation of getting rid of photos of your ex.

In another part of the song, she sings, “10 months sober, I must admit; Just because you’re clean, don’t mean you don’t miss it; 10  months older, I won’t give in; Now that I’m clean, I’m never gonna risk it.” These lines are a common feeling amongst anyone who has gone through a breakup; you miss your ex sometimes but you know that it’s best to not go down that road again because you’re better off without him/her.

As I said, you can interpret this song in different ways to relate it to your own life, but I believe that this song shows the positive after effects of a breakup or a hard time, which is something we can all learn from. It’s important to realize that you can find the light even in the darkest times.

Here is a link to all of the lyrics: http://www.metrolyrics.com/clean-lyrics-taylor-swift.html And you can buy the song on iTunes!

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20 Things I’ve Learned From Taylor Swift

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1. You have to shake off the haters.

2. You shouldn’t care what people think of you.

3. Love can be amazing.

4. But being single is also awesome!

5. Always treat people well.

6. Relationships aren’t like fairytales.

7. It’s important to have fun with friends.

8. It’s okay to be sad sometimes.

9. It’s also okay to be angry sometimes.

10. A touch of red lipstick is a touch of fun.

11. If you let go of the past, you’ll feel renewed.

12. You’re not living life right unless you’re a little bit goofy.

13. Love can start over even when all hope is lost.

14. Being fearless means to face your fears.

15. Once you breakup with someone, don’t get back together; you broke up for a reason!

16. Sometimes you just have to make fun of yourself.

17. Always have big dreams.

18. Never give up.

19. Your friends will always be by your side.

20. Always stay humble.

40 Things I’ve Learned So Far In College

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I still have a whole year of college left after this one, but I’ve learned so many things from the years that I’ve been here. And I’m not talking about what I’ve learned in the classroom….this is real life people. Here we go:

1. It’s impossible to keep every single friend that you made freshman year.

2. Having a boyfriend all the time really isn’t that important. Seriously, it’s not.

3. “Chicks before dicks” is the mantra that you should stay with no matter what.

4. Tinder is a bad idea.

5. Staying up late on weeknights loses it’s spark.

6. Eating healthy is worth it.

7. So is going to the gym.

8. Don’t meet your next boyfriend at a frat party. (It doesn’t really turn out too well if you do).

9. Listen to the advice your friends give you even if you disagree. They are only telling you these things to help you.

10. It’s crucial to give yourself time to have fun.

11. Stressing out over a gen-ed class is a waste of time.

12. It’s a good idea to conquer your procrastinating mind.

13. It’s okay to have a night to yourself (even if it’s on a Friday night).

14. You should always forgive people (even if you can’t forget).

15. Even if you don’t talk to your best friend from home every single day, you guys will remain best friends. Trust me.

16. Dressing nice for class makes you feel better.

17. Don’t try too hard to impress someone. If they don’t like you for who you are, then they can suck it.

18. Be mindful of other people’s feelings. Even if you aren’t fond of someone.

19. That extra slice of pizza on that one Saturday isn’t going to kill you.

20. Sometimes it’s nice to stay in with friends instead of going out.

21. You don’t have to dress like a slut to go to a party (It screams desperation).

22. Breakups aren’t worth all the tears. It ended for a reason.

23. Honesty is the best policy.

24. Don’t give your trust to people too easily, but don’t mistrust people too easily.

25. The past is behind you and has nothing to do with the present.

26. Stepping out of your comfort zone will result in exciting things.

27. Raising your hand in class doesn’t make you a nerd, it just helps you learn better.

28. College is way better than high school.

29. Petty drama isn’t worth the fight.

30. It’s a really good idea to use the career center to your full advantage.

31. Being single is the shit. Rather than wallowing in your loneliness, find all the positives of it.

32. Don’t spend all your money on Starbucks.

33. Don’t have on again, off again relationships. If you’re off once, leave it like that. (We are never ever ever, getting back together).

34. It’s virtually impossible to be friends with an ex no matter how hard you try.

35. Things aren’t always as bad as they seem.

36. Don’t hold your feelings in. It’s important to say how you feel.

37. If you do something stupid, don’t let it take over your life. Learn from it.

38. You’ll realize who your true friends are, just give it a little time.

39. Don’t let anyone stop you from doing what you want to do. You wanna be an astronaut firefighter? You go for it.

40. Don’t be sad when your college years are soon coming to an end. You still have many good years ahead of you.