How To Be A Less Cynical And More Positive Single Person On Valentine’s Day

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It’s that time of the year again when people are shelling out money for flowers, chocolates, cheesy greeting cards, expensive gifts, and fancy dinners. It’s also that time of year when the majority of single people in the world get cranky, annoyed, upset, and/or angry. This set of emotions tends to happen because they either wish they had someone to share Valentine’s Day with, they’re jealous of the couples who are celebrating, they hate the whole idea of Valentine’s Day, or a combination of two or more of these things.

What makes single people act so cynical toward Valentine’s Day? Sure, many would say that it’s a manufactured holiday that just gives Hallmark and other companies a jump up in revenue, but it’s also a day that is special to some people. There are many different things you can do to be a happier single person on Valentine’s Day.

If you are one of those people who are so focused on Valentine’s Day and you wish you had someone to spend the holiday with, there are plenty of things you can do to distract yourself. You can spend that time hanging out with your other single friends, and do something fun and exciting. If you are in a situation where you’ll be alone on Valentine’s Day, don’t be afraid! You can be your own Valentine! As lame as this sounds, it’s actually nice to treat yourself to anything you want. Go out and buy yourself chocolates and nice wine. Put in some comedic DVDs (not romantic ones that will make you cry!) and laugh as loud as you want. Spending Valentine’s Day without a special someone does not have to be as pathetic as you make it out to be. Treat yoself!

If you’re someone who easily gets jealous of all the posts on Facebook that people share about what their significant other got them/did for them on Valentine’s Day, I have one simple solution: STOP LOOKING. Force yourself to stay off all social media for that whole day, and distract yourself with better things. If you don’t want to see all the lovey-dovey couples out on Valentine’s Day, then go buy yourself something nice and have a fun night in to yourself, or with friends. Stop inserting yourself into situations that will make you feel worse about being single!

If you’re the ultimate Valentine’s Day cynic who despises this holiday and trashes it along with whoever celebrates it, you need to stop. Just because you think the holiday is stupid, doesn’t mean that people who celebrate it are stupid. Some people look forward to celebrating Valentine’s Day, and you shouldn’t let that bother you and your opinions. Let people do what they want, because everyone has different views on this day. Don’t put anyone down for the way they celebrate. You do you, they’ll do them, and that’s how it’s supposed to be!

All in all, you have to understand that it’s perfectly okay to be single. Whether you treat Valentine’s Day as just another day, or if you acknowledge it as a holiday, you’re the same person on February 14th as you are on any other day. Valentine’s Day isn’t meant for kicking single people to the curb while the happy couples rejoice. It’s a day where you should appreciate everyone in your life, regardless of your relationship status. You’ll feel a whole lot better if you don’t let Valentine’s Day affect you in a negative way.

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Why Everyone Should Listen To Taylor Swift’s Song “Clean”

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Taylor Swift is known for writing songs about relationships and breakups, and many of her lyrics are extremely relatable. Some people aren’t fans of Swift simply because of the topics of her songs, but her song “Clean” from her latest album “1989” is a song that I believe everyone needs to listen to at least once.

“Clean”, which was co-written by Imogen Heap, can be interpreted in many different ways depending on your personal situations. I believe that its original meaning has to do with getting over a breakup. It reflects losing someone, yet finding yourself through it all.

This song has beautiful lyrics and metaphors throughout which create strong visual images in the mind and a whole string of emotions. I want to go through some of the lyrics just to show you how on point this song can be with anyone’s life.

The song starts out like most breakups do: “You’re still all over me like a wine-stained dress I can’t wear anymore; Hung my head as I lost the war; And the sky turned black like a perfect storm.” Using the beautiful metaphor of a “wine-stained dress”, Swift sings about the moment after a breakup where you cannot stop thinking about your ex/you can’t seem to get over him/her. In these lines, she explains the feeling of a breakup as being very dark and empty.

The chorus is a basic summary of the whole process of getting through a breakup: “Rain came pouring down; When I was drowning, that’s when I could finally breathe; And by morning, gone was any trace of you; I think I am finally clean.” Swift uses the metaphor of rain as the emotional breakdown that one goes through during a breakup. “When I was drowning, that’s when I could finally breathe”, is an ironic statement that reflects finding oneself when all hope is lost. The second half of the chorus emulates the moment when you’re finally over a breakup and you feel like a new person.

Another line that stands out is: “So I punched a hole in the roof; Let the flood carry away all my pictures of you.” This is a metaphorical representation of letting go all of the memories of your ex that are haunting you and holding you back. This could also be a literal interpretation of getting rid of photos of your ex.

In another part of the song, she sings, “10 months sober, I must admit; Just because you’re clean, don’t mean you don’t miss it; 10  months older, I won’t give in; Now that I’m clean, I’m never gonna risk it.” These lines are a common feeling amongst anyone who has gone through a breakup; you miss your ex sometimes but you know that it’s best to not go down that road again because you’re better off without him/her.

As I said, you can interpret this song in different ways to relate it to your own life, but I believe that this song shows the positive after effects of a breakup or a hard time, which is something we can all learn from. It’s important to realize that you can find the light even in the darkest times.

Here is a link to all of the lyrics: http://www.metrolyrics.com/clean-lyrics-taylor-swift.html And you can buy the song on iTunes!

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40 Things I’ve Learned So Far In College

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I still have a whole year of college left after this one, but I’ve learned so many things from the years that I’ve been here. And I’m not talking about what I’ve learned in the classroom….this is real life people. Here we go:

1. It’s impossible to keep every single friend that you made freshman year.

2. Having a boyfriend all the time really isn’t that important. Seriously, it’s not.

3. “Chicks before dicks” is the mantra that you should stay with no matter what.

4. Tinder is a bad idea.

5. Staying up late on weeknights loses it’s spark.

6. Eating healthy is worth it.

7. So is going to the gym.

8. Don’t meet your next boyfriend at a frat party. (It doesn’t really turn out too well if you do).

9. Listen to the advice your friends give you even if you disagree. They are only telling you these things to help you.

10. It’s crucial to give yourself time to have fun.

11. Stressing out over a gen-ed class is a waste of time.

12. It’s a good idea to conquer your procrastinating mind.

13. It’s okay to have a night to yourself (even if it’s on a Friday night).

14. You should always forgive people (even if you can’t forget).

15. Even if you don’t talk to your best friend from home every single day, you guys will remain best friends. Trust me.

16. Dressing nice for class makes you feel better.

17. Don’t try too hard to impress someone. If they don’t like you for who you are, then they can suck it.

18. Be mindful of other people’s feelings. Even if you aren’t fond of someone.

19. That extra slice of pizza on that one Saturday isn’t going to kill you.

20. Sometimes it’s nice to stay in with friends instead of going out.

21. You don’t have to dress like a slut to go to a party (It screams desperation).

22. Breakups aren’t worth all the tears. It ended for a reason.

23. Honesty is the best policy.

24. Don’t give your trust to people too easily, but don’t mistrust people too easily.

25. The past is behind you and has nothing to do with the present.

26. Stepping out of your comfort zone will result in exciting things.

27. Raising your hand in class doesn’t make you a nerd, it just helps you learn better.

28. College is way better than high school.

29. Petty drama isn’t worth the fight.

30. It’s a really good idea to use the career center to your full advantage.

31. Being single is the shit. Rather than wallowing in your loneliness, find all the positives of it.

32. Don’t spend all your money on Starbucks.

33. Don’t have on again, off again relationships. If you’re off once, leave it like that. (We are never ever ever, getting back together).

34. It’s virtually impossible to be friends with an ex no matter how hard you try.

35. Things aren’t always as bad as they seem.

36. Don’t hold your feelings in. It’s important to say how you feel.

37. If you do something stupid, don’t let it take over your life. Learn from it.

38. You’ll realize who your true friends are, just give it a little time.

39. Don’t let anyone stop you from doing what you want to do. You wanna be an astronaut firefighter? You go for it.

40. Don’t be sad when your college years are soon coming to an end. You still have many good years ahead of you.