Why Finding Prince Charming Shouldn’t Be Top Priority

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The dissolution of a seasoned romance is similar to the rotting of the leaves in the winter; sudden and ugly. But seasons change, and so do emotions. You eventually get back on your feet and pick up the pieces of your heart until another soul destroys it again, and you repeat the cycle.

This may seem like a harsh metaphorical representation of a breakup, but when you truly think about it, it’s just a normal part of life. Sure, in the moment of a breakup, you might think your life is over, and everything you’ve ever dreamed of is crushed, but honestly, that’s just the dramatization of your current emotions. You know for a fact that you’ll live, and that you’ll be fine after some time passes.

So many people have placed “finding my true love” at the top of their list of priorities. This is understandable, because from books, and films, and even real life experiences, we’ve clung on to the idea of love being the closest thing to magic (cheesy, but let’s be real, this is true). I’ve gone through my fair share of breakups, some harder than others, and I can tell you that my experiences have made me re-prioritize my life. I’ve always been the hopeless romantic daydreamer, whose expectations of a fairytale romance were beyond any ideal relationship. Even though some of my relationships did contain aspects of my daydreams, they all contained faults that were unexpected. But after trying so hard to seek out this perfect fantasy with a perfect prince, I’ve come to realize that it’s not worth searching for.

Let me explain myself. I haven’t given up on love completely, rather, I have taken on the idea of letting things happen naturally instead of searching. I previously mentioned that my life is prioritized differently these days. I find myself daydreaming about my future career, in place of a romance. I pride myself in holding on to true friends, instead of trying to rediscover a true love. I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter how many breakups you go through because they only teach you more about yourself and what you want in life. A true love will come to me someday, but until then, I’ll patiently go through the days creating meaning out of everything I do.

It’s important to do things that matter and embrace each day as a personal challenge. Let love come to you when fate decides you’re ready to take it on.

Quote Of The Day:

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A Rambling of Positive Thinking

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Since it’s been awhile since I’ve posted on here, I decided that I’m just going to ramble on about being positive in life and basically just let my fingers explain what’s going on in my crazy mind.

I’ll start off by saying that life throws curveballs at us all the time. Certain things happen in life that are unexpected and maybe disappointing at times, but the unexpected is the best thing that can happen to us. Honestly, if we knew in advance every little thing that was going to happen in life, how would we grow? How would we learn? The answer is, we wouldn’t. If we knew these things in advance, the only thing we would learn is how to prepare for disaster.

But life isn’t about preparation. Life is about taking each bullet and becoming a stronger person in the end.  It may be hard to realize it when it’s happening, but if you’re going through a difficult situation, it’s actually more helpful than toxic. How, you ask? Well, every single time a person has to go through something, he or she has to find a way out of it. The whole process of getting out is essentially a process of growth. We all know that amazing feeling that we get when we accomplish something huge; you feel as if you could conquer the world. Well this is the same thing. Once you dig yourself out of that hole that you got into, you can take a deep breath of fresh air and say, “I made it”. So ultimately, the end result of a bad situation is what you should always be thinking about.

There’s no official “how to” guide for getting out of a tough situation/time in life, but there are some things that you can do in order to slowly but surely get on the right track. The first thing you have to do, is tell yourself that it’s not the end of the world. Whether it be a small situation, or a much bigger problem, nothing is worth losing hope over. NOTHING. If you tell yourself to be positive right from the beginning, it makes the healing process go a lot smoother. The next thing you have to do, is sit down and create a list of things you can do to fix your situation. Now, I understand that everyone is different and everyone is going through different things, but I feel like everyone can still make some sort of personalized list. For example, if you’re going through a breakup, think of ways you can distract yourself, think of ways you can move on, and think of what things you can do that make you happy. No matter what it is, always make sure that it’s something positive and healthy for you. Don’t be afraid to only think about yourself (unless the situation involves another person’s well-being). After this list-making process, it’s time to get to action. Do these things on your list right away, don’t sit around and wallow and procrastinate. That will do you no good! It’s okay to be sad sometimes, but don’t let it take over. You will only heal if you get up and do something about it!

So when you find yourself losing all hope, just stop and think about how beneficial this situation is for you. It may sound weird to do that, but trust me, you’ll be happy you did it. I don’t even know if my disorganized thoughts even made sense in this post, but I really hope whoever is reading this gained something from it. If all else fails, just smile and know that you can get through anything and everything. We may not be superheroes, but us humans can have the strongest powers in the universe; we can survive anything.

I’ll leave you with the quote of the day (randomly decided that I’ll do this from now on):

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