20 Kind Things You Can Do For Others

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1. Pay for someone else’s meal/drink.

Whether you’re in a Starbucks drive-thru or a sit-down restaurant, tell the staff that you want to pay for another person’s order. The term “pay it forward” can come into play here :).

2. Volunteer. 

Volunteer at a soup kitchen, or a children’s hospital, or any other organization that gives back. Not only will you make others feel better, but you’ll feel pretty great doing it!

3. Hide some money somewhere in a store. 

It doesn’t have to be hundreds of dollars, especially if you’re short on money these days. Even leaving just a few dollars somewhere can bring some excitement and joy to someone’s day.

4. Attach money to a vending machine with a kind note. 

Leave enough money for someone to make a purchase and attach a short note saying something like, “Buy something sweet, on me!” Again, this small gesture can make someone’s day.

5. Pay someone with a compliment. 

If you really need to save money, you can pay someone in a different way: with a compliment! Let’s say you’re waiting in line at a store. Say something nice to the person in front of you or behind you. Even the smallest compliment can make someone feel amazing.

6. Donate to an organization. 

There are so many great organizations out there, so pick one that’s close to your heart and donate! Even just a small donation still makes a difference.

7. Help an elderly person (or anyone) carry groceries to his/her car. 

If you see someone struggling to get groceries to his/her car, offer to help them out! As long as you don’t ask in a creepy way, chances are, they’ll be grateful for your help!

8. Give coffee to a homeless person. 

Unfortunately, these days it’s sometimes hard to trust a homeless person with your money because there are some scammers out there. It’s a sad fact, but we know that it’s true. So instead, go to the nearest coffee shop and buy a coffee or hot chocolate for them. It’s an especially nice gesture for a cold winter day.

9. Write a nice note and leave it in a random book at the library. 

It could be a random book, or maybe it could be your favorite book. Come up with something wonderful to write and stick it in a random page. Chances are, you won’t get to see a person’s reaction to it, but just the thought of it will bring you joy.

10. Leave a sweet note on a random person’s car. 

Again, you might not get to see the person’s reaction to it, but it’s something incredibly kind and unexpected.

11. Make conversation with a store clerk (if it’s a slow day!). 

It doesn’t even have to be a full-length conversation, just ask them how their day is going, or how long they’ve been working there. Friendliness is easily passed around :).

12. Resolve a past conflict. 

This sounds like a large task but it doesn’t have to be that difficult. It’s not worth it going through life with enemies. Figure out a way to solve a past conflict with someone, and you’ll feel so much better. You don’t have to become friends with that person, but at least just agree to be civil. You’ll feel a whole lot of satisfaction!

13. Give out free hugs. 

This one sounds silly, but I always thought it was a cute idea. I’ve seen YouTube videos of people who wear a shirt or hold a sign that says “Free Hugs”, and they stand in the middle of their campus, or somewhere else in their town. I think it’s a great idea because let’s face it, everyone needs a hug! A hug a day keeps the negativity away!

14. Have a free lemonade and/or cookie stand (or hot chocolate in the winter). 

I know you like to make profit, but if you give out free food and drinks, it can make people have a better day! This simple task can bring a smile to at least one person’s face.

15. Offer to help tutor a classmate for free. 

Let’s face it, college kids are notoriously broke, yet they also want to do well in school. If you have time, and you would consider yourself well-rounded in that class, offer assistance to a struggling classmate. It will make them feel more confident, and hey, maybe you’ll make a new friend in the process!

16. Make a purchase at Goodwill/Salvation Army/another resale shop. 

Make sure you understand the cause before you go to the store, so that way you know what your money is going towards.

17. Go around your campus or around your town telling people genuine compliments. 

Again, I got this idea from YouTube, and it’s a bit more time-consuming than other things on this list, but the reactions you’ll get from others is priceless.

18. Donate old clothes/other items. 

Instead of just throwing out clothes that don’t fit anymore, donate them to an organization that gives them to people in need. It’s a much better option knowing that someone else will get use out of your unwanted things.

19. Gather up some friends and clean up your favorite local park (or other areas!). 

Being kind to the environment ultimately helps you be kind to others because a clean environment = healthier, happier people.

20. Bake something tasty for your neighbors. 

Whether you are best friends with your neighbors, or complete strangers, surprising them with baked goods is a great way to brighten their day! Maybe they’ll even invite you over to eat some of your treats with them!

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Why Finding Prince Charming Shouldn’t Be Top Priority

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The dissolution of a seasoned romance is similar to the rotting of the leaves in the winter; sudden and ugly. But seasons change, and so do emotions. You eventually get back on your feet and pick up the pieces of your heart until another soul destroys it again, and you repeat the cycle.

This may seem like a harsh metaphorical representation of a breakup, but when you truly think about it, it’s just a normal part of life. Sure, in the moment of a breakup, you might think your life is over, and everything you’ve ever dreamed of is crushed, but honestly, that’s just the dramatization of your current emotions. You know for a fact that you’ll live, and that you’ll be fine after some time passes.

So many people have placed “finding my true love” at the top of their list of priorities. This is understandable, because from books, and films, and even real life experiences, we’ve clung on to the idea of love being the closest thing to magic (cheesy, but let’s be real, this is true). I’ve gone through my fair share of breakups, some harder than others, and I can tell you that my experiences have made me re-prioritize my life. I’ve always been the hopeless romantic daydreamer, whose expectations of a fairytale romance were beyond any ideal relationship. Even though some of my relationships did contain aspects of my daydreams, they all contained faults that were unexpected. But after trying so hard to seek out this perfect fantasy with a perfect prince, I’ve come to realize that it’s not worth searching for.

Let me explain myself. I haven’t given up on love completely, rather, I have taken on the idea of letting things happen naturally instead of searching. I previously mentioned that my life is prioritized differently these days. I find myself daydreaming about my future career, in place of a romance. I pride myself in holding on to true friends, instead of trying to rediscover a true love. I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter how many breakups you go through because they only teach you more about yourself and what you want in life. A true love will come to me someday, but until then, I’ll patiently go through the days creating meaning out of everything I do.

It’s important to do things that matter and embrace each day as a personal challenge. Let love come to you when fate decides you’re ready to take it on.

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How to NOT Be Sad on Valentine’s Day (a random rant of positivity and anti-angst)

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Stop all your negative energy on Valentine’s Day!

Now, there are four types of people on Valentine’s Day:

1.    The person who has a significant other who is giddy and joyful about the day of love.

2.    The person who has a significant other who doesn’t give two shits about the holiday and thinks it’s just another day/maybe doesn’t even like Valentine’s Day.

3.    The person who is single and is excited to have fun with friends on Valentine’s Day.

4.    The person who is single and is 500% against Valentine’s Day and shreds all of his or her hatred on the rest of humanity.

Now, I bet all of you fit one of these 4 categories, and if not, well, you’re either an alien, or just a type of person I have never ever encountered in my life.

But if you’re single like me, sometimes it could indeed be difficult to let Valentine’s Day pass by without having a single negative thought cross your mind. That is perfectly normal, and perfectly okay, but don’t let it define your whole system of thoughts. Yes, maybe Valentine’s Day really is just an excuse for couples to shovel out all their money on expensive chocolates and flowers and those cheesy greeting cards created by people who enjoy manufactured love. But, if you approach the day in a different way, you might just feel better about yourself.

Here’s how I like to look at Valentine’s Day: I like to think about all the people in my life who I love and care about, and think about how truly grateful I am to have them. When you think about who has left your life and who has stayed, you understand the impact that those permanent people have had on you. Throw away all the stereotypical feelings you should have on Valentine’s Day (even if you have a significant other), and spread the love to everyone in your life.

“Well, can’t you just think about that stuff any day you want?” you ask. Yes, and I encourage it, but there’s something about Valentine’s Day that pisses me off….it’s the way people act when they clearly wish this “holiday” never existed. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know how you feel. I’ve been single on Valentine’s Day, and I’ve also not been single on Valentine’s Day. But one way or the other, stop being so angsty…seriously, we are no longer those teenagers who think that their life sucks and that love sucks and that the world sucks etc. etc. You can treat it like another day if you want, but if you do that, don’t feel the need to gag at every lovey dovey couple that you see around town (or at those typical pictures on Facebook of flowers, giant stuffed bears, etc.). Let people celebrate Valentine’s Day they want to celebrate it and don’t judge!

So all my single ladies (and even the single guys out there), don’t worry if you don’t have a “Valentine”. Don’t worry if you have nothing to do on Valentine’s Day. Don’t worry if you feel completely lonely on Valentine’s Day. Why? Because for those 24 hours you are the same person you have been, and this holiday shouldn’t define your overall attitude about life. So go stuff your face with chocolate, watch a funny movie, do whatever you want, but just don’t wallow in your own self pity! Rant over.