The Truth About Feminism

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Feminism has become a controversial topic mainly because of the false definitions that people give it. A lot of people out there truly believe that feminism involves hatred against men, yet this is completely untrue. I think a lot people are believing this because there are people out there who claim to be feminists and they also claim to hate men, which ultimately puts out a bad name for feminism as a whole. Misandrists are “men haters”, while feminists are equality lovers.

Feminism is not about hating men, or hating anyone for that matter. It simply stands for gender equality. While many might argue that feminism is more of fighting for women’s rights, which is partially true, it also just fights for equal rights for both women and men.

Our country has evolved through the years, but there are still many issues with gender inequality. A huge one is unequal pay. In most companies, women only get paid 78% of what men get paid, even if they are doing the exact same job. This wage gap not only makes no sense, but it’s also completely unfair. Why should a woman be paid less than a man if she is doing the same amount of work as him, and is just as equally educated? Equal pay isn’t really an outlandish request, it’s more so requesting something just.

Another aspect of gender inequality in the workforce is superiority. These days, we do see more women becoming CEO’s and managers, but there still seems to be a larger amount of men in higher positions. This could either be due to the fact that men are more likely to be hired, or it could be due to the fact that women are afraid to apply for higher positions. Either way, it’s a noticeable factor. Women and men should both be able to equally receive high positions if they both have the same qualifications and skills.

There are many internet trolls out there who created the term “meninism” as an opposing force to feminism. Meninism mocks feminism in many ways, and jokes around about men needing more rights. This new term was created by people who don’t understand the true meaning of feminism, as mentioned earlier. “Meninists” think that feminists believe in women having more power than men, which is, again, far from the truth.

To understand this topic better, use the term “gender equality” instead of “feminism”. Although, it doesn’t necessarily matter what term you use, because the general concept is what is really important. Why should one gender be superior over another? Who even decided that in the first place? We are all just people, and we should all be treated equally and respectfully.

10 Ways To Make The Most Out Of Senior Year Of College

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Senior year of college can be a stressful time. Not only are you trying to figure out your fast approaching future, but you’re also dreading the fact that you have to leave all these wonderful friends you made over the years. Even though senior year is scary, it can also be your best year of college if you let it be.

1. Get involved in as many activities as you can. Join a school organization that you’ve always wanted to join, or even try something new that is out of your comfort zone. Make the most out of the last of your college experience!

2. Spend as much time with friends as possible. This is especially important if you are your friends are all going separate ways after graduation. You want to spend a lot of time with them so that way you’ll stay close friends after school is done.

3. Stop worrying about the little things. If you spend too much time worrying about every little thing, you’re using up valuable time. Instead, focus on all the good things in life and take advantage of them.

4. Party it up. Get all your college-style partying in NOW because you’re just going to look like an idiot if you do it after college. If you don’t like to party/drink, have your own kind of party with something you enjoy. Have a movie night, with lots of pizza and too many cookies, and sit under a blanket fort. GO WILD!

5. Explore. Go with your friends and find at least one new place that you have never been before. Even if your college is surrounded by nothing exciting, attempt to find something and make it exciting. You know you’re going to miss that place when you leave.

6. Don’t get too stressed about your classes. You have more important things to focus on! But at the same time, don’t let senioritis take over to the point of not even wanting to try. Find a balance and stick with it!

7. Let go of any people who are negatively affecting your life. This is the time when you can finally realize who should be in your life and who shouldn’t be. Don’t stick with people who are just going to bring you down. It’s not only a waste of time, but it also gives you unnecessary problems.

8. Don’t freak out about your post-graduation plans. I know this is tough to follow, but if you get overly panicked about your future, you won’t be able to calm down enough to actually focus. Just know that basically every senior in college goes through the same thing, and you’re not alone. You’ll figure it out soon enough.

9. Immerse yourself in things that you love doing. Whether you have a hobby that you enjoy, or a certain activity, do as much of it as you can. It’s really important to enjoy yourself because that will make you happy. Plus, you’ll have more free time now than you will after college, so use it up!

10. Just be you. By now, you’ve pretty much found yourself for the most part, so don’t ever try to be someone that you’re not. Go through life day to day and be as true to yourself as you can be. You’ll feel so much happier by just simply being yourself.

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Why It’s Okay To “Play The Field”

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A girl who dates around a lot is typically called a whore, while a guy who does this is called a player. We stereotype these people as serial daters, making them sound like killers, which is a bit extreme. If you don’t truly hurt anyone in the process of “playing the field” should it actually be considered taboo?

If you’re not committed to anyone, you’re completely free to date whoever you would like to date. Whether you don’t want to be tied down, or you just want to explore your options, dating around is a great way to find out what type of person is right for you. It allows you to get to know a variety of people in the world, and maybe you will be able find your match during this process.

In this generation, relationships are formed faster than the snap of a rubber band. Typically, a couple becomes “official” after only a couple weeks of dating. We have become a fast paced society, so this seems normal to us, but is it actually healthy? When we jump into a relationship, we are faced with difficulties because we learn more about the other person that we didn’t have time to learn beforehand. It makes me wonder what dating was like years ago, when a boy would ask a girl to go steady, only after giving himself the proper amount of time to know if she was the one. I’m sure relationships still had their flaws back then, but maybe they were still stronger.

Going on various dates can help you see what’s out there, rather than shutting yourself out because of one person who seems perfect at the time. Sure, you’ll eventually have to choose someone out of all these people that you meet, but that doesn’t mean you should choose the first person you lay your eyes on. Even if you just go on a few different dates, you can let yourself see the differences in people, and you can learn more about yourself too. You can learn about what you’re actually looking for and see what specific things you like about people.

I think “playing the field” has such a bad reputation surrounding it because of the way society has defined it. Society thinks that it means sleeping around, or even being unfaithful, but it doesn’t have to have those meanings at all, as long as you are doing it in a classy manner. You don’t have to commit yourself to someone right off the bat just because you think they have potential. Look around, and you could possibly find someone else with even more potential.

Think of it as a metaphorical representation of a soccer field. If you’re on offense, you’re not just standing in one spot the whole time, because that wouldn’t do anything for you. You’re running up and down the field trying to accomplish a goal. Ahem, “playing the field”. If you’re just sticking to one person before attempting to meet other people, you might not reach your goal.

There are many exceptions to this, so this is why I’m not forcefully telling you that you should play the field or else you’re going to fail in life. I’m just saying that it’s perfectly normal and perfectly okay to explore your options, especially if you’re unsure about being with someone. If you meet someone and you truly know from the bottom of your heart that he/she is the one, then okay, go for it! But don’t look at the people who play the field and automatically pull a red flag on them. They just choose to spend more time searching for that special person.

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Why You Shouldn’t Make New Year’s Resolutions

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So every year, you make a pact to yourself to do everything on your list of resolutions, and then at the end of the year you realize that you have barely accomplished anything on that list. So why do you keep continuing that cycle? New Year’s resolutions are so overrated. You don’t need to make a list of things like “lose weight” or “use my phone less” because you know that you’re more than likely not going to get things done that way. Instead, you should cherish every single thing you DO get done during the year of 2015.

It was on a BuzzFeed article that I saw this great idea of decorating a mason jar, and filling it with notes of every great thing that happens during 2015. I decorated a mason jar myself, and I can’t wait for 2015 to begin so I can start filling it up. The idea is to write down all the wonderful things you do or feel during the year and put them in the jar, and then by the end of the year you can look at everything you’ve done, and ultimately feel accomplished.

I think that this is a great idea because it will make you realize how much you have actually done instead of things that you haven’t done. I believe that this is a great way to stay positive and feel good about yourself. Just imagine how much all the little things can add up over the year. It doesn’t even matter if you write down something small like, “got an ‘A’ on a paper” or something big like, “went on a trip to Australia”. Big or small, anything that feels like an accomplishment to you personally, is amazing.

You need to let yourself see that you are amazing, and everything you do is amazing. Sure, you’re going to make mistakes, and you’re going to have your ups and downs, because after all, you’re human. But, despite these rough times, you’re also going to have exciting things happen to you. Like I said, it doesn’t even matter how small these positive things are, just write it down each time something awesome happens. You’ll feel stronger and happier if you do so.

Let 2015 be your year. Let it be the year of breaking out of old habits of any negativity, or any sense of doubt. 2015 will be better than 2014 simply because you will let it be better. So instead of making those resolutions, take 2015 day by day, and make sure you let things happen as they are meant to happen. I promise you that it will be a lot more satisfying that way.

Here’s to a Happy New Year!

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Why It’s Possible For Everyone To Find A Silver Lining

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This post is inspired by a recent BuzzFeed article (http://www.buzzfeed.com/carolynkylstra/silver-linings-are-real) that talks about the silver lining theory.

According to researchers at NYU, the silver lining theory, in basic terms, means to develop a strength from a weakness. Finding a silver lining means to find something positive about yourself that originally develops from one of these weaknesses that you have. I think this is an amazing theory that applies to every single human being out there (hey maybe even some animals too!). It just takes a little determination and believing in yourself in order to find your own silver lining.

Think about your biggest weakness. What does this weakness prevent you from doing? What does this weakness help you do? Now, you might be wondering how in the world a weakness can help you do anything in life, but I believe that you can find at least one positive that can come out of it. By doing so, you will be able to change your outlook on life and the way you look at yourself as well. This will allow you to live a happier and more satisfying life.

Think about the movie Silver Linings Playbook (the movie starring the ever so dashing Bradley Cooper and super spunky Jennifer Lawrence). The main character, Pat (played by Cooper), has bipolar disorder, which has negatively affected his life. He claims to have caught his wife cheating on him, and he also had to experience some other events that tore him down. But the after effect of these events prove that it’s possible to find a silver lining. He did everything he could to keep pushing through to find the positives that lay within those terrible times. His extreme situations reflect that no matter what you’re going through, it’s always possible to discover something great out of something bad. The silver lining, people!

When I read about this silver lining theory, I decided to think about it as compared to my own life. One of my weaknesses is getting overly stressed when I have too much on my plate. While I see this as a negative trait, I realize that it can also translate to the fact that I’m a hard worker and will never give up when work is given to me. Through that realization, I came to find how easy it was to find my silver lining and I would definitely apply this theory to any other weaknesses that I may have.

Like I said, anyone and everyone can find their own silver lining(s). Think about it outside the box first; take a dark room, for example. The negatives of a dark room are that it’s impossible to see anything, and it’s essentially useless because you cannot get anything done in a dark room. So what is the silver lining? Well, you need the room to be dark in order to fall asleep at night, so there’s a helpful aspect! Also, a dark room (usually) contains a light switch, in which, with the flick of a finger, you can instantly light up the whole room; an instant gratification received through an unfavorable situation.

So think about the different ways you can transform your negative thoughts into positive ones. If your greatest weakness is being too emotional, it means your strength is having a big heart. If your biggest flaw is spacing out and daydreaming when someone is trying to talk to you, your great feature is that you’re a big dreamer. Apply this theory to your own life and I promise you that you will find your own light switch even in your darkest of times.

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40 Things I’ve Learned So Far In College

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I still have a whole year of college left after this one, but I’ve learned so many things from the years that I’ve been here. And I’m not talking about what I’ve learned in the classroom….this is real life people. Here we go:

1. It’s impossible to keep every single friend that you made freshman year.

2. Having a boyfriend all the time really isn’t that important. Seriously, it’s not.

3. “Chicks before dicks” is the mantra that you should stay with no matter what.

4. Tinder is a bad idea.

5. Staying up late on weeknights loses it’s spark.

6. Eating healthy is worth it.

7. So is going to the gym.

8. Don’t meet your next boyfriend at a frat party. (It doesn’t really turn out too well if you do).

9. Listen to the advice your friends give you even if you disagree. They are only telling you these things to help you.

10. It’s crucial to give yourself time to have fun.

11. Stressing out over a gen-ed class is a waste of time.

12. It’s a good idea to conquer your procrastinating mind.

13. It’s okay to have a night to yourself (even if it’s on a Friday night).

14. You should always forgive people (even if you can’t forget).

15. Even if you don’t talk to your best friend from home every single day, you guys will remain best friends. Trust me.

16. Dressing nice for class makes you feel better.

17. Don’t try too hard to impress someone. If they don’t like you for who you are, then they can suck it.

18. Be mindful of other people’s feelings. Even if you aren’t fond of someone.

19. That extra slice of pizza on that one Saturday isn’t going to kill you.

20. Sometimes it’s nice to stay in with friends instead of going out.

21. You don’t have to dress like a slut to go to a party (It screams desperation).

22. Breakups aren’t worth all the tears. It ended for a reason.

23. Honesty is the best policy.

24. Don’t give your trust to people too easily, but don’t mistrust people too easily.

25. The past is behind you and has nothing to do with the present.

26. Stepping out of your comfort zone will result in exciting things.

27. Raising your hand in class doesn’t make you a nerd, it just helps you learn better.

28. College is way better than high school.

29. Petty drama isn’t worth the fight.

30. It’s a really good idea to use the career center to your full advantage.

31. Being single is the shit. Rather than wallowing in your loneliness, find all the positives of it.

32. Don’t spend all your money on Starbucks.

33. Don’t have on again, off again relationships. If you’re off once, leave it like that. (We are never ever ever, getting back together).

34. It’s virtually impossible to be friends with an ex no matter how hard you try.

35. Things aren’t always as bad as they seem.

36. Don’t hold your feelings in. It’s important to say how you feel.

37. If you do something stupid, don’t let it take over your life. Learn from it.

38. You’ll realize who your true friends are, just give it a little time.

39. Don’t let anyone stop you from doing what you want to do. You wanna be an astronaut firefighter? You go for it.

40. Don’t be sad when your college years are soon coming to an end. You still have many good years ahead of you.