This post is inspired by a recent BuzzFeed article (http://www.buzzfeed.com/carolynkylstra/silver-linings-are-real) that talks about the silver lining theory.
According to researchers at NYU, the silver lining theory, in basic terms, means to develop a strength from a weakness. Finding a silver lining means to find something positive about yourself that originally develops from one of these weaknesses that you have. I think this is an amazing theory that applies to every single human being out there (hey maybe even some animals too!). It just takes a little determination and believing in yourself in order to find your own silver lining.
Think about your biggest weakness. What does this weakness prevent you from doing? What does this weakness help you do? Now, you might be wondering how in the world a weakness can help you do anything in life, but I believe that you can find at least one positive that can come out of it. By doing so, you will be able to change your outlook on life and the way you look at yourself as well. This will allow you to live a happier and more satisfying life.
Think about the movie Silver Linings Playbook (the movie starring the ever so dashing Bradley Cooper and super spunky Jennifer Lawrence). The main character, Pat (played by Cooper), has bipolar disorder, which has negatively affected his life. He claims to have caught his wife cheating on him, and he also had to experience some other events that tore him down. But the after effect of these events prove that it’s possible to find a silver lining. He did everything he could to keep pushing through to find the positives that lay within those terrible times. His extreme situations reflect that no matter what you’re going through, it’s always possible to discover something great out of something bad. The silver lining, people!
When I read about this silver lining theory, I decided to think about it as compared to my own life. One of my weaknesses is getting overly stressed when I have too much on my plate. While I see this as a negative trait, I realize that it can also translate to the fact that I’m a hard worker and will never give up when work is given to me. Through that realization, I came to find how easy it was to find my silver lining and I would definitely apply this theory to any other weaknesses that I may have.
Like I said, anyone and everyone can find their own silver lining(s). Think about it outside the box first; take a dark room, for example. The negatives of a dark room are that it’s impossible to see anything, and it’s essentially useless because you cannot get anything done in a dark room. So what is the silver lining? Well, you need the room to be dark in order to fall asleep at night, so there’s a helpful aspect! Also, a dark room (usually) contains a light switch, in which, with the flick of a finger, you can instantly light up the whole room; an instant gratification received through an unfavorable situation.
So think about the different ways you can transform your negative thoughts into positive ones. If your greatest weakness is being too emotional, it means your strength is having a big heart. If your biggest flaw is spacing out and daydreaming when someone is trying to talk to you, your great feature is that you’re a big dreamer. Apply this theory to your own life and I promise you that you will find your own light switch even in your darkest of times.
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