How to NOT Be Sad on Valentine’s Day (a random rant of positivity and anti-angst)

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Stop all your negative energy on Valentine’s Day!

Now, there are four types of people on Valentine’s Day:

1.    The person who has a significant other who is giddy and joyful about the day of love.

2.    The person who has a significant other who doesn’t give two shits about the holiday and thinks it’s just another day/maybe doesn’t even like Valentine’s Day.

3.    The person who is single and is excited to have fun with friends on Valentine’s Day.

4.    The person who is single and is 500% against Valentine’s Day and shreds all of his or her hatred on the rest of humanity.

Now, I bet all of you fit one of these 4 categories, and if not, well, you’re either an alien, or just a type of person I have never ever encountered in my life.

But if you’re single like me, sometimes it could indeed be difficult to let Valentine’s Day pass by without having a single negative thought cross your mind. That is perfectly normal, and perfectly okay, but don’t let it define your whole system of thoughts. Yes, maybe Valentine’s Day really is just an excuse for couples to shovel out all their money on expensive chocolates and flowers and those cheesy greeting cards created by people who enjoy manufactured love. But, if you approach the day in a different way, you might just feel better about yourself.

Here’s how I like to look at Valentine’s Day: I like to think about all the people in my life who I love and care about, and think about how truly grateful I am to have them. When you think about who has left your life and who has stayed, you understand the impact that those permanent people have had on you. Throw away all the stereotypical feelings you should have on Valentine’s Day (even if you have a significant other), and spread the love to everyone in your life.

“Well, can’t you just think about that stuff any day you want?” you ask. Yes, and I encourage it, but there’s something about Valentine’s Day that pisses me off….it’s the way people act when they clearly wish this “holiday” never existed. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know how you feel. I’ve been single on Valentine’s Day, and I’ve also not been single on Valentine’s Day. But one way or the other, stop being so angsty…seriously, we are no longer those teenagers who think that their life sucks and that love sucks and that the world sucks etc. etc. You can treat it like another day if you want, but if you do that, don’t feel the need to gag at every lovey dovey couple that you see around town (or at those typical pictures on Facebook of flowers, giant stuffed bears, etc.). Let people celebrate Valentine’s Day they want to celebrate it and don’t judge!

So all my single ladies (and even the single guys out there), don’t worry if you don’t have a “Valentine”. Don’t worry if you have nothing to do on Valentine’s Day. Don’t worry if you feel completely lonely on Valentine’s Day. Why? Because for those 24 hours you are the same person you have been, and this holiday shouldn’t define your overall attitude about life. So go stuff your face with chocolate, watch a funny movie, do whatever you want, but just don’t wallow in your own self pity! Rant over.

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